PreenerHow to say something difficult kindly
Say something hard with honesty and care.
Free to start. Works on Android, in Chrome and on the web.
- Partner
- Friend
- Family
- Roommate
- Coworker
- Boss
- Gentle
- Balanced
- Direct
- Text
- Say in person
How it works
Say what's wrong
Use your own words, even if you're annoyed. The dishes, the late rent, whatever it is.
Choose your approach
Gentle, Balanced or Direct. Pick who it's for and whether it's a text, an email or something to say in person.
Soften or sharpen
Tap Less blame, Clearer ask or Invite their side, then send it.
An example
roommate keeps leaving dishes in the sink for days ive asked twice. im fed up want a schedule or something
Hey, can we talk about the dishes? They've been sitting in the sink for a few days again, and I've brought it up twice now, so I'm getting pretty frustrated. I don't want this to turn into a thing between us. Could we set up a simple schedule we both stick to? I'm open to whatever works for you.
Then make it yours
- Less blame
- Clearer ask
- Invite their side
- Shorter
- Try again
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Questions, answered
Is it free?
Yes. The free plan gives you AI help every day, and Pro gives you about 10,000 AI actions a month. You sign in with Google or a code we email you, so your work follows you to every device.
Will it sound like AI?
It talks about the situation in plain, first-person words, without therapy-speak or blame. It sticks to what you told it, so it won't add complaints you didn't make.
Can I use it on my phone?
Yes. Install the Preener keyboard for Android and open Difficult message from the keyboard in any app. Your account also works in Chrome and on the web.